Phase II

I don't know how many of you have been married 20 years to the same person, but I am here to tell you that it is a wonderful accomplishment. Kenny and I were married 20 years ago yesterday. Hard to believe that much time has gone by. We are very proud of our accomplishment. But it has not always been all sunshine and roses. Marriage is a fulltime job of sorts. It goes through many stages and twists and turns. Hills and valleys. Sorrow and happiness. It is all in how you decide to handle each of those stages that will determine the outcome. Love does not always conquer all. Kenny and I have seen many stages in the past twenty years. (and let me tell you, there are times that both of us wanted to throw our hands up and say, "That's it, I'm done. I can't do this any more") I am glad that we decided to push on and overcome whatever struggle we were going through. We are now at a stage of having an empty nest in the next couple of years and we hardly know each other. We have concentrated so much on being parents that we forgot to be husband and wife. It is hard to suddenly not have to worry so much about the kids. We are finding it difficult to communicate as individuals. We don't even know what our interests are any more. We have come to the conclusion that we are going to have to just start from scratch and try to learn about each other all over again. In a way, that alone is very exciting. almost like dating and getting to know the person. There are unlimited possiblities as to what we will learn. We love each other and are looking forward to starting the 'rest of our lives ' together. (Phase II) :)